MySQL processes consuming too much VIRT and RES memory

i have over 100 wordpress websites on a server with 64GB ram and 16 processors I recently isolated 5 of them with PHP-FPM pool, but in the process also migrated them from php7.4-fpm to php8.3-fpm. Now both php7.4-fpm and php8.3-fpm are running. The 5 websites have 50 processes on startup each, and the other 95+ websites have around 256 processes on startup altogether with .conf configuration for php7.4-fpm. Just as i isolated these 5 websites, i noticed drastic increase in RAM memory consumption over time, in 2-3 days, the RAM usage went from 30GBs to 57GBs out of 61GBs available. And the only processes that are holding such memory are /usr/sbin/mysqld i.e. mysql processes. I haven't changed anything in mysql configuration and it just started consuming so much VIRT and RES memory that i think it affects the RAM overall. Here is a screenshot of htop table currently. [htop screenshot](https://i.sstatic.net/6mAIjCBM.png) I have been dealing with this problem for too long, and i am desperate to find a solution. What should i do? I hope for help. After noticing the problem, i have tweaked (increased) innodb_buffer_pool_size to 24G instead of 12G increased innodb_buffer_pool_instances from 1 to 24 introduced innodb_redo_log_capacity = 8G and removed innodb_log_file_size (because it is deprecated added innodb_log_buffer_size = 16G and innodb_flush_log_at_trx_commit = 2 but the result is still the same, htop shows RED color in the VIRT column and as i increase the innodb_buffer_pool_size, it also increases in parallel and is now 32.5G and mysqld has over 50 processes like this running. I am wondering, does the isolation of websites have something to do with this problem?