I need lightweight Linux distro with VM support for an old processor

I have an old notebook with an i3-2350M (2 cores, 4 threads, and integrated Intel HD Graphics 3000) and 4 Gb RAM, and a decent SSD. The mother does not supports more ram. I only use it, mostly for web browsing and some light Visual Studio Code. Originally it had Windows 7, browsed the web perfectly Ok, meanwhile also running virtual machines. It updated automatically to Windows 10, which, after many non-consensual upgrades stopped supporting virtual machines, and became slower and slower, to the point it cannot even run youtube videos at 720 smoothly. A big problem is that it runs out of ram, which is shared to graphics. I think that the end of support for VM is due to new security requirements. So I want to replace the OS with Linux, to restore web performance, and virtual machines support. I do not trust major distros like Ubuntu, because I had bad experiences with his automatic updates (on other machines). But I also would like a supported Linux distro. Which distros are lightweight, and also supports VM on old processors?