Disconnect screen time requests from messages

Some time earlier this year I started getting my child's screen time requests in the Messages app. This has become really annoying. The whole thing seems half-baked and there are several issues: 1. Each request appears multiple times 2. The request, which goes to both my wife and me, shows up as coming from my child, but the request text says "Mama asked for more time". 3. I send my messages to my laptop as well, and there these messages all show a spinning fan while Messages loads more information, I guess. 4. It really locks up the Messages app. Sometimes it causes the app to crash. "Messages quit unexpectedly." I tried searching for ways to disable this but I didn't find any good answers on the Apple support site. I can't see actual messages from my kid for all these stupid screen time requests. Is there a way to disable this again?