Annoying choice of contact email/phone on CarPlay and iOS

CarPlay uses what is configured on your iPhone. Every time I try to use Siri on CarPlay to send a message or FaceTime someone, for example, Siri send message to Susan or Siri facetime Susan, then I have to hear the most obtuse and annoying question ever: This person has two contacts, email blabla@bla.com and phone number "home", which one do you want to choose? This is ridiculously annoying because I constantly message this person, ALWAYS using her email, and I know that her email and her phone number are both registered for messages and FaceTime. The most ridiculous part is that some contacts have multiple emails and phone numbers, but just one email and one phone number is presented. Is there a way to edit the contact and mark an email or phone number as the preferred way to contact a person, so this step of making me choose for a method is eliminated?